Most people know that Tinder is also called the “Shag App”. As I said before – I believe that what you put out on Tinder, as in expectations, is what you will find. I go through varying cycles of Tinder needs. Sometimes I just want to connect with new people, even tourists – so that I can take them around my city. Sometimes I just want to hookup with a hottie. Sometimes I’m hoping to find a person with benefits, or heaven forbid – a partner.
But I’ll be honest – I’ve used Tinder many times for hookups (ie SEX). I absolutely love the spontaneity of meeting someone and flirting and then enjoying a new, fresh sexual experience! I’m a little addicted to that actually. I worry that I might never be happy with the same partner day in and day out.
Here’s a bit of shocking stats for you: In the last 4 years I have gone from having 1 sexual partner to just over 40. (By the way – I am in my 40s)
Are you going to judge me?
Are you going to shake your head and feel sorry for this person who is clearly “lost”?
Are you going to think I’m skanky?
I truly hope not! I am very much a well balanced individual with a HUGE heart. I love sex (I didn’t until my mid 30s). And I have only recently discovered my sexuality and the amazing feelings of intimacy with a man. I also think I should enjoy this time of my life while I’m still young enough to do so. So I take risks (not to my detriment), I meet as many new people as my energy allows, and if there’s a connection – I’ll sleep with the man. We are all consenting adults, and sex is a natural part of our genetic makeup. If you think otherwise – it’s all thoughts that you have been conditioned with. #justsaying
Oh – I don’t sleep with anyone I’m not attracted to. And I have HIGH standards!